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| Wearing Carla Ruiz |
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| Jenn, a long-time friend and Femulate reader |
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Someday Funnies
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An Arrival from Venus
I am a sucker for houndstooth and I could not resist adding this A-line houndstooth dress to my wardrobe. The only issue was answering the universal question of girls who order clothing online: Will it fit?![]()
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Out of the package, I had my doubts, but the proof is in the putting on the dress. So I slipped out of my boy lingerie and slipped into my girl shapewear to find out.
The dress is figure-hugging above the waist, then flares out below the waist “to create a flirty A-line silhouette.” It is short, falling about mid-thigh, but when has a short hemline ever stopped me before! The dress does not suffer from the loose button syndrome and its sleeveless sleeves are not an issue as I have thin lady arms. So the dress is a keeper and I hung it in my closet to wear in the near future.
The question is when is the “near future?”
I am still doing physical therapy with six more sessions approved by my health insurance, but I am very close to being ready to go out en femme. I am not high heel ready, but flats will work and I would like to go out about the time of my last physical therapy session.
Who knows? By then I may be high heel ready, but heels or flats, I’m going out and weather permitting, this confection from Venus will be what I will wear.
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| Wearing Roberto Cavalli |
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| Femulating at Tuntenball |
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Someday Funnies
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| Wearing Peter Petrov |
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| Femulating in the UK in the 1970’s |
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2022 Transgender Lives Conference
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| At the 2019 Trans Lives Conference (when it was really “live”) |
The conference is geared towards social service providers, medical and legal professionals, transgender and non-binary gender diverse and gender non-conforming community members, as well as allies and supporters interested in learning about healthcare and legal issues that affect our communities.
To register for the conference go to the conference’s registration webpage. Registration is free, but $10 donations via PayPal are welcome.
Yours truly will be presenting at the conference (time slot to be determined). The topic of my presentation is “Confidence: A Crossdresser’s Best Friend.” It’s a topic I covered at previous conferences and it has always been a crowd pleaser.
I hope to see you there!
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| Wearing Guilty of Glam |
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| Kyle De'Volle femulating womenswear model |
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Someday Funnies: Proms are for boys, too!
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| Wearing PromGirl |
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| Raven Ross and Rey Silva went to the prom in drag to celebrate Silva's passion for pop fashion icons and bring awareness about the fears that LGBT high school students often feel. |
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Breasts or Legs?
In this day and age, it seems absurd that husbands still want wives with big breasts, but they do.
With that in mind, my parents started me on a regimen of hormone supplements as I approached puberty. The purpose of the hormones was to help me achieve a state of pulchritude that would make me more attractive to the opposite sex and eventually snag me a husband.
When I began taking the supplements, I had big expectations. My budding breasts seemed to outgrow my training bra overnight and I was soon sporting a new A-cup bra. However, as all my friends moved up the bra cup alphabet, my breasts refused to grow any larger. I was stuck at an A-cup even after the doctor increased the dosage of my hormones.
As I neared my sweet 16 birthday with nary a date in sight, Mom offered me breast implants as a birthday gift. But I was adamant that no surgeon was going to take a scalpel to my surgically virgin body, so I refused.
Although I lacked bountiful breasts, I had other attractive features including a pair of long shapely to-die-for legs. To show them off, I always wore the shortest skirts and highest heels. On a few occasions, I was sent home from school because my skirts were so short that they revealed other assets.
Nevertheless, I built my wardrobe around mini-skirts and mini-dresses hoping to attract someone who preferred well-turned ankles over well-rounded breasts.
After graduating from high school, I became a receptionist at a high-tech engineering firm where I attracted a design engineer who was an unabashed leg aficionado. We dated for six months, then she asked for my hand in marriage.
We just celebrated our fifth wedding anniversary and she still likes me to show off my legs. (She tells everyone, “He has the best legs in town.”)
As her obedient and dutiful wife, I willingly comply and wear skirts or dresses and high heels throughout my day.
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| Wearing Zuhair Murad |
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| Femulating at the Chamayavilakku Festival |
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Someday Funnies
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| Wearing StyleWe |
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| Couple crossdressing, circa 1930 |
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Can I picture Helen Mirren wearing it?
Girls like us receive a lot of flack about how we dress. Specifically about how we don’t dress our age. That girls like us dress like girls half our age (and look ridiculous doing so).I plead guilty of not dressing my age. In my defense, I claim that I don’t look my age – that I look younger than my 71 years, so why not take advantage of that fact and dress like a 50-year-old woman.
And when considering whether I look good in any outfit I am wearing, I use the following checklist:
1. Do I look good?
2. Do I feel good?
3. Does it say something positive (and perhaps truthful) about my rank in life?
4. Can I picture Helen Mirren wearing it?
In my opinion, question number 4 does it for me! If I can imagine the 70-something Ms. Mirren wearing the same outfit that I am wearing, then I believe it is perfectly appropriate for this 70-something femulator.
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| Wearing Joie |
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| Femulating in the shower |
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Someday Funnies
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Getting Good to Go
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| On my last trip to Hamvention (Hope it’s not my last trip to Hamvention!) |
But...
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“The time has come,” the Walrus said, “To put on a dress and go out en femme.”
I am feeling better and have been invited to lunch with some lady friends later this month. I think I can manage a few hours out especially if I wear flats, but now I face the daunting task of removing all that hair!
I thought about cheating and wearing black tights to avoid shaving my legs, but I still have to deal with the rest of my body hair and removing leg hair is relatively easy and so it goes.
By the way, I have sent my regrets to my ham radio friends informing them that I will not be going to Ohio next month to attend Hamvention. I may be good to go out to a local restaurant for a few hours, but I am not quite good to go to Dayton and be on and off my feet for the three-day convention.
I so look forward to my Hamvention trips and was very much looking forward to going this year especially since the convention was cancelled the last two years due to the pandemic. But I finally bit the bullet, put on my big girl panties and admitted that this year was a no-go, too.
Darn it!
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| Wearing A.L.C. dress and Valentino tote and sandals |
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| Three gorgeous girls out in their LBD‘s |
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Someday Funnies
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| Wearing Free the Roses |
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| Alan Manson femulating in the 1943 film This is the Army. You can view this femulating-packed film on YouTube. |
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Dressing Your Age, More or Less
Sandy responded to Monday’s post, Can I picture Helen Mirren wearing it?
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I do not understand how (seemingly) most of our sisters go through their journey trying to look like they are 22, when so many clues give them away.
I mean, I get it. Most of us go through a phase of sorts that feels like we are teens, trying on looks, textures, attitudes. But I think we all have to give a nod to reality – that we tend to and probably should, skew toward the age-appropriate.
Truly, I wonder who these sisters believe they are appealing to and I have come to the conclusion that their choices are determined by wanting to look like someone that they themselves would be attracted to, as well as what clothing they have access to purchasing. Maybe they only feel comfortable buying the discards at the local goodwill or someplace else that affords cheap prices and anonymity while shopping.
Either way, I think it casts a pall over crossdressing/gendering in general because the public can look at those sisters and cast them as pervy and then we, who might try to dress pretty/classy/age-appropriate, get painted the same way. That’s unfortunate.
What’s more is that I think women’s fashion has evolved beyond the age of our grandmother’s hausfrau dresses and other unsexy outfits. These days, most ciswomen still want to be considered kinda hip, if not young and pretty, and there are many styles out there now to accommodate (including hairstyles). I think it’s sad that there are many sisters out there who don’t know the difference and don’t get with the program.
I also understand “to each, their own,” but from a girl who prefers the looks that I think honor ciswomen, by trying to emulate them more: girl next door, soccer mom, business woman.
I do find some of the fetish looks make my hobby feel a little dirty and seedy (if that makes any sense).
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| Wearing St. John |
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| Dressing my age – NOT! |
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Someday Funnies
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| Wearing Zuhair Murad |
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| Femulating in the Easter Parade |
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Someday Funnies
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| Wearing New York & Company |
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| Femulating for Halloween in the mid-1960’s. |
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My Achy Left Foot
Wednesday morning, I spent about 45 minutes shaving those body parts and was surprised it did not take as long as I expected. (All those years using chemicals to remove leg hair have taken its toll and the hair on my legs is very sparse, which simplified that part of the hair removal process.)
Mid-Thursday morning, I began getting ready for the 1 PM Zoom meeting. I was good to go about a 45 minutes early, so I decided to experiment with different shoes to see how my achy left foot would get along with different footwear.
My Nine West slingback pumps with four-inch heels lasted about five minutes. Next I tried a pair of over-the-knee boots from Just Fab, which were more comfortable than the slingbacks, but not by much. So I switched to a pair of Nine West pumps with a kitten heel. They were pain-free and I wore them for the remainder of the afternoon.
I also wore my new A-line houndstooth dress from Venus and was very pleased with its quality and its fit, as well as how nice it looked on me, in my humble opinion (see the accompanying photo).
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| Wearing New York & Company |
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| Femulating in India |
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Someday Funnies
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| Wearing Elisabetta Franchi |
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| Femulating in the Roaring 20’s |
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Dressing Your Age, Continued
Dee responded to Friday’s post, Dressing Your Age, More or Less.
It boggles my mind when femulators (thanks, Stana) can have these two thoughts going on in their head simultaneously:
1. When I’m out in public, I expect others to be tolerant of me; and
2. OMG, do you see what she’s wearing?
In short, tolerance for me, but none for thee.
We don’t want people making fun of us, but we are happy to jump on others because they don’t dress the way we approve? How hypocritical. How condescending. How rude.
Here is a sample.
“Truly, I wonder who these sisters believe they are appealing to and I have come to the conclusion that their choices are determined by wanting to look like someone that they themselves would be attracted to, as well as what clothing they have access to purchasing. Maybe they only feel comfortable buying the discards at the local goodwill or someplace else that affords cheap prices and anonymity while shopping.”
Rubbish.
Every post Stana includes a picture which says “Femulate Her.” There are a lot of cute outfits and some might be “age inappropriate,” according to some.
I suggest instead that instead of bowing to someone else’s judgment, we make our own decisions and ignore judgments like the one above.
Recently, I had a great interaction with a store manager, Kira, in Melbourne, Australia. She asked me if the clothes I was wearing made me feel confident because they should make you feel confident. All I know is that I walked into her store and saw the top she was wearing and I decided I wanted that top. She’s 22 and a genetic girl and gorgeous – I’m none of the above – and I bought the top and wore it out of the store with confidence (see photo above).
Enough with the shaming of others because they don’t dress the way you think they should. If you want tolerance for yourself for how you dress, you must have tolerance for how others dress. Otherwise, you’re not helping our community, you’re harming it.
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| Wearing Venus |
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| Femulating in the early 1960’s |
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Someday Funnies
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| Wearing Charo Ruiz |
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| Professional femulators, the Fono Fools (Joe Price and David Hummel) circa 1961. |
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Slipped My Mind
Early on as a novice femulator, seamed stockings gave way to seamless stockings, which soon gave way to pantyhose, Meanwhile, gloves, hats, girdles and slips disappeared from most ladies’ wardrobes.
To this day, I still wear a girdle and my hosiery switches between thigh-highs and pantyhose depending on the length (or lack thereof) of my skirt. I gave up wearing gloves long ago because gloves did not get along with my press-on nails. But it slipped my mind why I stopped wearing slips.
Slips are helpful when you are wearing other layers like bras or shapewear, since slips smooth over any bumps from hardware, closures or digging waistbands. Without a slip, your outer layers of a blouse or dress may hug to these other items, but wearing a slip gives you more coverage for smooth lines. Spanx sells undies that serve a similar purpose, but they are not as elegant as a classic slip.
I invite you to read Angela Friedman’s “Top reasons to wear a silk slip.” Here is a summary of her top seven reasons...
1. Keep your legs from sticking to your skirt fabric
2. Keep your fancy dresses clean for a 2nd wearing
3. Add a layer under a semi-sheer outfit
4. Feel like a glamorous, Old Hollywood starlet
5. For a peek of lace - and prevent wardrobe malfunctions
6. Smooth your silhouette and hide VPL
7. Life is too short to wear ugly pajamas!
...but read the whole article and you will be motivated to slip on a slip like I am.
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| Wearing Bebe |
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| Femulating in the mid-1960’s |
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Someday Funnies
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| Wearing Nana Jacqueline |
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| Professional femulator Louis Martin, circa 1910 |
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