One friend, who I had known for over 35 years was pleased to see me once he recognized me en femme.
He listened attentively to my story. Then he asked some questions, which I answered.
Finally he said to me, “Why would anyone want to be a woman?”
My jaw dropped. I felt like everything I had said to him had gone in one ear and out the other.
It was not a choice. I didn’t decide one day that I needed a change of pace and would become a woman. I didn’t decide to become woman to spice up my life.
Life would be so much easier if I was not a woman who found herself in a male body.
Like author Joy Ladin wrote, “There’s nothing so bad about being a man... as long as you’re a man.”
I'm certainly not a man. Never was. That explains why I feel uncomfortable when en homme, but at ease when en femme.
Anyway, I did not unfriend my old friend for asking that question. I look forward to seeing him and we still interact with each other the same way we did before my coming out.
And so it goes.
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| Christian De Sica femulating in the 2018 Italian film Amici Come Prima (Friends Like Before). If you search YouTube for Amici Come Prima, you will find a number of film clips from the movie. |