As I wrote here on Thursday, just getting out en femme is more important than getting out en femmeand passing, but it sure feels wonderful on those occasions when you know that you passed!
In celebration of the holiday season and the near end of this dreadful year, let’s share some good news for a change. Send me one of your passing successes – that time you knew you definitely passed and I will share your story here with our readers.
(Please only send me one – your very best – passing success story, even though you may have a million of them. That way everyone will have a chance to tell their story.)
To kick things off, here is a success story that Kim sent me after she read Thursday's post.
I accept as fact that it is difficult for me to pass, because I am a tall person with many physically male attributes. But that doesn’t mean I do not try. I do the best I can with shapewear, selection of clothing, wig style and makeup, as well as subtle adjustments to mannerisms (some innate) and voice, in an effort to pass.
Yes, I try to pass. I want to pass. I want the freedom to move among the people, unquestionably seen as woman. That’s my ultimate goal. I know I seldom attain that goal, but it’s a great motivator.
And once in a while I actually have succeeded beyond my expectations. For example, one summer night six months prior to covid, I went to a local bar/restaurant for dinner and a few drinks. I was seated near a large group of young women out for a bachelorette party. Somehow I got drawn into their group and spent much of the evening enjoying the revelry with them. Most of the time was spent chatting with the pretty young woman who invited me to join their group.
I’m not sure why, but at some point I acknowledged what I presume was obvious – that I was transgender. To my surprise, the girl was surprised by my acknowledgement. She said she never for a moment imagined that I was anything other than an attractive, mature woman. She insisted so. I was stunned and pleased and frankly felt so validated as a woman.
I know... I’m not supposed to worry about passing, but when it does happen, it is utterly wonderful.
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| Wearing Cynthia Rowley |
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| Rumano Fabrishh– another one of the “Millions” on the Internet |